Spring is an awesome time of year – signs of life are poking through the damp soil and there’s hints of colour glimmering in the occasional sunshine. I feel it’s impossible to ignore the re-birth that’s happening all around. It’s an interesting time in your grief journey, depending on where you’re at.
You may start to notice the birds singing or feel an awakening to familiar sounds that have been absent. Mother Nature is full of hope and promises of renewal because change is in the air. So you may feel in alignment with this and come to understand that something within you is changing.
I recognise that for some of you, this can also be an anxious time in your grief journey. Grief doesn’t suddenly dissolve just because the seasons are changing. Family and friends become excited and there’s a buzz about warmer weather as ‘normal’ activities are resumed. This is the time when you may feel the need to retreat.
What we experience in nature’s patterns, is also what we experience in our grief. Regardless of where you’re at, hope will eventually emerge on the horizon and there will be a gradual warming in your heart, which goes someway to dulling the pain.
Whether you recognise it or not, the grief journey is always progressing and I want to remind you that everything will be just fine. Life is always changing and happening for us, not to us. Plus, change is the one constant in our lives we can rely on. So just as the birds break out into song in spring, there’s potentially a new song for us to sing too whenever we choose.
You may already be feeling optimistic for better days ahead and find yourself joining in with laughter (without realising or feeling guilty). Something within us shines a little bit brighter with the spring sunshine because surviving the winter of our grief and embracing it mindfully, is a decision to accept loss and be at one with it.
I encourage you to explore new possibilities that create a different landscape to behold. You can make a decision that you will begin to appreciate what you still have, not just focus on what’s missing (although I get that you won’t want to ignore it either). And you will know when you’ve made that decision because something within you opens.
Just as the harshness of winter is softened with new life and new growth, this is something that unfolds when the time is right. The springtime of grief arrives with no drama, just the stillness of beauty unfolding and coming into your conscious awareness. It is happening around us, but it will also happening within us.
If spring has already crossed the path of your personal journey of grief – then great. Celebrate it! If the winter chill still remains in your heart, be encouraged; spring is on its way. Look for it, expect it and it will be yours to experience.
Here’s a 7 tips for embracing your grief during spring:
- Take some time to sit down and make some loose plans that will nurture you and help you cope with your loss. What makes you feel warm on the inside?
- Remind yourself that you are not your loss by making the decision to participate in some nurturing activities. You might like to do something different, such as nature watching, star gazing, rowing or foraging. Anything that feels good.
- Consider joining a social group that meets regularly to do something you’re interested in. For example, a walking group, local history group or craft group.
- Write and capture your grief in a journal. Remember to write about the good moments as well as the challenging ones – and celebrate how far you’ve come.
- When the sun is shining, at least take yourself outside for a walk. You can go to a park and walk on a trail, or just sit on a bench and read or write in your journal.
- Consider whether you’d like to participate in some spring cleaning or de-cluttering.
- If you enjoy gardening, spring is a great time to be outdoors and potter in the garden. You might like to consider planting a memorial tree or plant for your loved one.
If you’re finding this time of a year a struggle, know that you’re not alone. I get it. Consider how coaching can help you to move forward in your grief.