Hi there – I’m so glad you’re popping over here to find out more about me…
I live and work in the beautiful Shropshire countryside with my husband and four legged companion, Ben.
I love being in nature, getting creative in the form of home décor, gardening, cooking, and of course running my business. I’m passionate about what I do. I still feel stressed from time to time, however, mindfulness has been a significant discovery in my life and helps to keep me grounded. I love it so much that I’m now training to teach Mindfulness Based-Stress Reduction.
I’m a keen traveller of the UK – there’s so much to see right here on this wonderful island of ours! So as you can imagine, I’m highly enthusiastic about mini breaks and staycations. I got married in Cornwall and this feels very much like our second home.
I love life as it is now but this hasn’t always been the case. I’ve been through some dark times and have lived experience of bereavement, grief and loss.
When I was 25, my mum passed away suddenly and unexpectedly, I lost my best friend and the one person I felt gave my life meaning. We were incredibly close and had lots of fun together. This loss was devastating for me. However, there was no real time to grieve.
Not more than 2 months later, I lost my dad to Dementia. Although he was physically here, he had lost his capacity to make any decisions or care for himself, seemingly overnight. I’ll never know for certain when the onset of my dad’s dementia was, but I’m certain that the tragedy of losing my mum triggered the development at an accelerated rate. I immediately stepped into the role of care giver and for 7 years grieved his loss, until I finally lost him completely.
What I didn’t expect after all this, was to lose one other thing. Somewhere amongst all this grief and pain, I had lost myself too. I felt disconnected, empty and a shell of a person. The big gaping holes left in my life meant that I had no idea what ‘normal life’ was any more or who I was.
It was in the aftermath of those darkest days that I really started to struggle mentally. My grief had become complicated and I was depressed and anxious. When I began to contemplate suicide, I decided that I had a choice and needed help.
Healing didn’t happen over night and it was nothing to do with time. It was a combination of support from professionals, friends and most importantly, myself.
I started to realise that this wasn’t the end of my world, it was the beginning of something a little different. It wasn’t what I had planned yet I could start to see a way through. I never imagined that, after what felt like a decade of loss, I would be where I am today. Yes, I’ve lost my parents. Yes, I’ve lost my career (twice!). Yes, I’ve lost close relationships. Yes, I’ve even lost myself along the way.
What I’ve found is more beautiful than I ever imagined was possible.
I’m passionate about giving you the support you need.
I understand the emotional roller coaster of grief and the pain that bereavement and loss brings. No-one can tell you how or when the intensity of your grief will reduce, but it will.
I know that life will never be the same again and adjusting to life after loss isn’t easy. I also know that it is possible when the time comes for you to adapt, heal and grow around your grief.
You can find meaning in life again without forgetting what your loved one means to you. I will meet you wherever you’re at on your grief journey and walk the rest of the way alongside you.
The bit about how well qualified I am
I have lots of skills, interests and qualifications which make up my own unique style of supporting you through bereavement, grief and loss. My knowledge and experience is all part of the mix when it comes to providing you with a compassion-led service:
- BSc & MSc Psychology
- Diploma in Performance Coaching with NLP
- Additional Certificate NLP Practitioner Level
- Level 5 in Leadership & Management
- Qualified Adult Trainer
- Level 3 Counselling Skills & Theory
- Mindfulness Teacher Training
I am also a member of two professional organisations; The Association for Coaching and The National Council of Psychotherapists.
Being a professional member demonstrates that I care about keeping my skills and training up to date in order to be the best for you. It also means I undertake regular supervision from a qualified supervisor and my professional insurance is present and correct.