The Secret to Healthy Crying.

The Secret to Healthy Crying.

As somebody who’s done my fair share of crying over the years – crocodile tears and all – I feel that crying is a healthy release. I’ve also had a number of clients cry during coaching sessions and there’s one thing I never do – offer them a tissue (unless they ask...
7 Ways to Embrace Spring Whilst Grieving.

7 Ways to Embrace Spring Whilst Grieving.

Spring is an awesome time of year – signs of life are poking through the damp soil and there’s hints of colour glimmering in the occasional sunshine. I feel it’s impossible to ignore the re-birth that’s happening all around. It’s an interesting time in your grief...
Is ‘Female Grief’ a Thing?

Is ‘Female Grief’ a Thing?

Do women grieve differently to men? The answer is ‘yes and no’. Not that I’m sitting on the fence with this one, but I believe it’s not actually a gender thing. It’s a responsiveness thing (and I’ll explain what I mean by this). No two people grieve the same and there...
Finding Acceptance in Loss.

Finding Acceptance in Loss.

“I don’t want to feel pain anymore, how do I make it go away?”. This was a client request just months after the loss of her mother. She wanted to reach a place of acceptance ASAP and no longer wanted to feel the grief emotions. I understand this because I did a...
Why Grievers Don’t Need Your Advice.

Why Grievers Don’t Need Your Advice.

Admittedly, it’s difficult to know what to say to somebody who is grieving. But offering advice is the one thing that makes me do the *eye roll*. You may well have had experienced loss yourself and feel that you “understand” other people’s grief. I’m going to put this...
Turning Shit to Fertiliser.

Turning Shit to Fertiliser.

“When shit happens, turn it into fertiliser” – Kute Blackson. I’ve always loved this quote. It takes the “making lemonade out of lemons” concept to a whole new level, don’t you think? The fact is that shit happens and we have little control over most things in...